‘𝕀𝕗 𝕪𝕠𝕦’𝕣𝕖 𝕡𝕣𝕠𝕞𝕠𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕔𝕙𝕒𝕟𝕘𝕖𝕤 𝕥𝕠 𝕨𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕟’𝕤 𝕓𝕖𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕚𝕠𝕣 𝕥𝕠 𝕡𝕣𝕖𝕧𝕖𝕟𝕥 𝕣𝕒𝕡𝕖, 𝕪𝕠𝕦’𝕣𝕖 𝕣𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕪 𝕤𝕒𝕪𝕚𝕟𝕘 “𝕞𝕒𝕜𝕖 𝕤𝕦𝕣𝕖 𝕙𝕖 𝕣𝕒𝕡𝕖𝕤 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕠𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕣 𝕘𝕚𝕣𝕝”.’
Why do rapists rape?
Most rapists rape because they believe they will not be punished for it.
Not because they can’t control themselves (for they manage just fine around authority figures like cops / witnesses / cctvs), and not because of whatever their victim may or may not be wearing (or no one would be raping babies / women in burqas / schoolboys).
But because they think – they KNOW – that they are extremely likely – systemically – to get away with it.
So, men (and women), please stop making it all about you / your honour in “avenging” assaulted victims by unreal threats of castration and extrajudicial killings and even death sentences.
[And please know that I know that (at least some of) you do have the best intentions, and are speaking from a place of genuine sympathy -if not empathy. But ask any woman: she’d rather not be raped in the first place than have to be assaulted AND then have you torture and / or kill her rapist.
+ Not to mention the well documented psychological effect of a greater reluctance to convict, the harsher the punishment – and many judges (and most cops) already think even jail is too harsh a sentence for “common” rape].
More importantly, PLEASE stop putting the onus of prevention of assault on women (and little girls, ffs), and PLEASE save your lectures for your shitty mates and associates.
Instead of laughing at their gross sexist garbage (- even if you tell yourself you’re laughing at them, and not with them). For, might #notALLmen be rapists, but #ALLmen sure af know some.* And harsh truth? Most of you enable them. With your casual misogyny that is just bonding locker room “harmless” talk for you. But ends up further encouraging and normalising such disturbing ideas in the minds of such men.
So do something about _that_, instead of lecturing your female friends in the hope that rapists will assault random more vulnerable women instead of those you care about. 🙏🏼
This has been a PSA.
Thanks for listening. 🙏🏼
*And if you are actually unsure about who these male friends in your circles are, just ask your female friends. Or simply observe who they try and avoid being alone with. But if they can’t even trust you enough to speak of the same, go take a good hard long look in the mirror, and who you call your “friends”. It is quite literally the LEAST you could freaking do. 🙏🏼
‘𝕋𝕙𝕖𝕣𝕖 𝕨𝕚𝕝𝕝 𝕒𝕝𝕨𝕒𝕪𝕤 𝕓𝕖 𝕒 𝕘𝕚𝕣𝕝 𝕨𝕙𝕠 𝕚𝕤 𝕝𝕖𝕤𝕤 𝕤𝕠𝕓𝕖𝕣, 𝕝𝕖𝕤𝕤 𝕤𝕖𝕔𝕦𝕣𝕖, 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕝𝕖𝕤𝕤 𝕗𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕟𝕕𝕤 𝕨𝕒𝕝𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕚𝕟 𝕒 𝕕𝕒𝕣𝕜𝕖𝕣 𝕡𝕒𝕣𝕥 𝕠𝕗 𝕥𝕠𝕨𝕟. 𝕀 𝕨𝕒𝕟𝕥 𝕙𝕖𝕣 𝕤𝕒𝕗𝕖 𝕒𝕤 𝕞𝕦𝕔𝕙 𝕒𝕤 𝕀 𝕨𝕒𝕟𝕥 𝕞𝕖 𝕤𝕒𝕗𝕖.’